Ah! Being in love’s just magical right? And then the honeymoon’s over, the fairy-dust starts to settle and you’re left with the hum-drum, every day job of cleaning it up and making your relationship work! The question most of us end up asking ourselves at some point, is how can we keep our love alive and kicking?
Well, the good news is, it’s a CANDoable.
I’m going to admit, I’m still totally into my hubbie. He’s my best buddy, my media naranja (“other half of my orange” for the many that don’t speak spanish) and the light that inspires me to get up and keep going every day.
Most of the time we chug along and life’s rosy-posy. However, like most couples, every once in a while a crappy moment sneaks up on us with a loud BOO! These bad boys sneak up because we’ve inadvertently slipped into automatic pilot mode and stopped working towards goals together or consciously following each other’s care instructions. Luckily enough it’s these moments that bring out the absolute best in the both of us.
We’re honest enough with ourselves to know that sometimes shit happens but blame is not a cure.
We’re big enough to recognise that we’re the ones in the control seat of our relationship.
We’re courageous enough to communicate what we need with love and respect. If one’s down, the other’s up. If one’s upset, the other’s job is to support. If one needs a shoulder, the other is there. If one drops a stink bomb the other will say, “Hey, I’m feeling X, Y, Z.” and the stinker will except it gracefully without posturing, pouting and feeling blamed – we all make mistakes what matters is what we do afterwards.
What I’m getting at, is that we consciously move on and take action by restarting to fulfill the care instruction we are inadvertently neglecting.
Too many people these days either give up when the going gets tough in a relationship and file for divorce or resign themselves to the fact that their love life simply isn’t Hollywood material or meeting their true needs for care, affection, security, companionship and loving support. YOU don’t have to be one of them.
The key to keeping the love light burning is for BOTH of you to get back to basics. Reacquaint yourself with the care instructions on your partner’s Care Label and make sure you’re still following them and that your partner is following yours.
The answer to the question “How can we keep our love alive and kicking?” is to speak up, be your partner’s best friend and consciously take care of each other. Whether you’re looking for your media naranja, in a new relationship or have been married for decades you’re the one in control of keeping your love life alive and kicking