Relationships take work. Just because you’ve been seeing each other a while, are already living together, married or even (argh!) have children, doesn’t change this.
It’s little things in a relationship that make all the difference. Just a few simple things, could really help you get your shizzle together.
When one partner is “down” the other must be “up”. Everyone has their off-days and if today’s an off day for your partner, refuse to be dragged down by it, be “up” and supportive. Both sides must be sure to keep this balanced. Although, in certain circumstances, one side may be “down” for a long period of time, few relationships will survive if one side is constantly shouldering the other.
Never go to bed on an argument. Seek reconciliation. If things aren’t resolved, then resolve as much of the emotional side as you can before you hit the sack and agree to resolve the rest in the morning.
Always remember your partner loves you and married you for love. Why would he/she say something to hurt you? Are there different ways to interpret something that’s been said? If yes, always take it the positive way. Talk respectfully to each other about what was said and why it hurt.
Make your comments positive and if you can’t make them positive, make the effort to say the negatives in a positive and supportive way. This is grandissimo! If you can’t say something nice or nicely, just don’t frickin’ say it!
There is no mind-reading in a relationship. You have to talk to each other. You have to be clear about your needs, likes and dislikes. Remember the immortal words of Dr. John Gray in “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. We come from different planets. Accept it and your relationship will go far.
These tips make use of a number of life skills that are critical in love including having self-confidence, courage and thinking positively, being honesty and respectful, showing appreciation and admiration for who we are and what we do, being kind and compassionate and working as a team.
Have you got any great tips on how you keep your relationship alive? We’d love to share ’em.