Getting children to behave is an absolute mind-field, not only for parents but also for the children. Sometimes however, it’s our own behaviour that is at fault rather than our child’s.
Have you ever noticed how acceptable behaviour varies from situation to situation, place to place and even time to time?
Your child’s behaviour may be perfectly acceptable when you’re fully fed, have slept well and you’re relaxed and not running around multi-tasking.
Your child’s behaviour may be perfectly acceptable until you catch sight of someone without kids frowning at you on the bus or in the street and then, suddenly, they are too loud, too boisterous, too… childish!
Social situations and our own moods play a huge role in how we perceive how our children are behaving.
Defining clear limits and sticking to them is definitely a plus as kids love to know the boundaries they have to move in. A bigger plus is to examine our own behaviour.
Are you disciplining them for misbehaving because it’s outside the limits or because you’re hungry, tired and stressed?
Are you disciplining them for misbehaving because you’re suddenly aware that someone else is disapproving and all at once you feel you’re being judged in the eyes of others?
Think about it before you wade in with the discipline, you may be surprised.