As a child, did you have a list of things you wanted to do/be when you grew up? How many of those things have you done/achieved?
With goals, are you continually tempted to put things off with a “There’ll be plenty of time for that later.”
We all have – or should have – goals in life. Things we want to achieve.
When we achieve a goal, we cross it off and pop another one on the list. The trouble is getting these things done and the boulder in our path is more often than not lack of a plan.
A goal without a plan is nothing more than wishful thinking.
There’s a popular myth we all use as an excuse to be lazy and that is “Oh, it’ll all work out in the end.”
Things rarely “just work out” no matter how much you kid yourself they will.
Sure, it’s important to have belief in a divine power. However, this divine power is unlikely to be inclined to give you a leg up if you neglect to put in the effort to achieve things yourself.
Say you dream of having enough money to be comfortable and stop worrying.
- Are you “saving” or “investing” any of your income;
- Reducing your outgoings?
- Looking for or studying towards alternative means of increasing your income in the future?
No! Well then your goal of having more money is nothing more than wishful thinking.
What about getting a better job?
- Are you improving your qualifications?
- Scouring the newspaper job pages for potential opportunities or ideas for what extra skills you’ll need?
- Following your own self-improvement plan to acquire those skills?
No! Well then your goal of finding a better job is nothing more than wishful thinking.
Are you trying to lose weight?
- Have you swopped your diet for a healthier, less calorific one?
- Have you planned and are actually doing more exercise?
No! Well then your goal of losing weight is nothing more than wishful thinking.
If you’re aimlessly having ideas but not planning and putting the effort in to achieve them, then they aren’t goals yet, they’re nothing more than wishful thinking.
Can you honestly say you’re a CANDo Get-Up and Go-Getter that’s living life on your own terms? Or has wishful thinking become a lifetime habit for you; a way to do the bare minimum to get by in life.
The key to combating this day-dreaming is to get your Honesty Imp to recognise that what you’re doing isn’t propelling you towards any goal. It’s getting you nowhere.
Accept things aren’t going to just happen. Value and success come from hard work and perseverance.
If you really want to get things done, you’re going to need to revisit your goal setting, planning and habit building skills.
Here’s an easy CANDoable to set you off in the right direction.
One – Consider the ideas and wishes floating around in your head. Make the first step towards making them a reality by plucking these ideas from your wishing thinking and shoving them in the limelight of the real world. Do this by writing them down.
Two – Decide to work towards making just one of dream a reality – you can move on to the others later, when you’ve proved to yourself you can do the first one!
Keep your first choice simple – especially if you’ve been drifting for far too long and are out of the habit of being the one in control of your life. By keeping it simple, you’re more likely to achieve the goal and THAT will act as a soothing balm for your Self-Esteem and slap Doubt and Fear down if they try and stop you attempting your next goal.
Three – Break the goal down into very small actions/tasks that you can work through systematically.
Make sure these actions are really tangible, e.g., exercise twice a week (intangible)/go to aerobics at 19.00 on Thursday night and Swimming at 09.00 Saturday morning (tangible).
Things like “work harder”, “do more exercise” or “eat less and more healthily” are way too vague. Action plans need to be Specific, Measurable and Realistic.
How, what, where, why and when are usually fab questions to ask yourself when trying to come up with points on a goal plan.
Four – Keep it SIMPLE. Don’t fall into the trap of paralysis by analysis. The key is to stop thinking and START DOING.
Five – Monitor your progress. A good way to monitor progress is to tick off each activity as you do it. On a sheet, you can physically see yourself moving down the list towards your goal. Don’t ever underestimate this, it’s a major motivator.
Getting things done is usually all down to TAKING ACTION and then having your Self-Discipline make you stick with it and persevere. Simple, small, steps all add up over time so don’t sit there thinking wishfully about what you’d like to achieve or waiting for divine intervention, Get-Up and Go-Get what you want in life.
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